keyword: kindness

 

I developed from being naive and oblivious only to become paranoid and frightened. That summed up my earliest childhood, before being bullied by local thugs who worked for my dad and decided to take out their frustrations with him on me. But those ugly and early experiences have been followed by a good life with good people. A life that has led me to be cautious but trusting. Especially considering the way I have felt recently about the world, our country, and my place in them.

One thing I am certain of,  there’s always room for kindness. Once I reached the higher realization–that people are essentially good–I knew I was finally maturing.

Recently when returning from vacation in central coastal California, I was walking on the Pier at Santa Barbara. I tripped (hysterically enough it was on a speed bump. I hate them – they hate me) and slammed down hard on the dirty, wooden planks. It knocked the breath out of me and ripped up my knees and right hand I had instinctively used to break the fall. Sprawled on the deck, the first thing I heard was male voices saying, “are you ok?” Two complete strangers stopped and looked AT me, rather than away. After assurances I was not badly damaged they asked if they could help in any way. I was in a slight state of shock so I just said no I’m OK. They said, “do you want us to help you get up?” I said, “Oh yes definitely.”

About that same time, an employee from the maintenance department arrived on the scene saying he had witnessed my fall and asked if I needed bandages or “help with splinters.” That’s when I realized I was covered in black slivers of the rough-hewn planks. God knows what kinds of things have driven, walked, spat, urinated, or worse on that dirty old wood. I thanked the helpful passersby and followed the employee to his workplace where he brought out a simple first aid kit and proceeded to pull eight or nine good sized chunks out and bandage up the bleeding knee and palms. *Side note: in this litigious atmosphere I’m amazed this guy didn’t get fired for helping me. Thank goodness there was still some common sense at that  place.)

So when you “just check in to see what condition your condition is in” (thank you Kenny Rogers), look for the good. And help it along by being kind. It may not change the world but it can’t hurt. Certainly not as much as my ribs do from the fall.

When asked how to talk to children about the 9/11 tragedy, Mr. Rogers said, “Tell them what my mother always told me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

The mission of Ben’s Bells,  a wonderful non-profit project that originated in Tucson, AZ I support and recommend highly, is to inspire individuals and communities to engage in kindness education and practice.

Read the history of this amazing group, HERE. Thanks for being kind, Bobby Rich

11 responses to keyword: kindness

  1. Don Williams says:

    I am very sorry to learn of your fall and injuries. I am also heartened to learn of the concern others had for your well-being. My sarcastic side wants to make snarky remarks about cruelty to speed bumps and that kind of thing, but, no. I will not succumb to that low level. But it’s really, really hard not to. I am glad you are recovering (the human body is an amazing thing that we don’t consider until a situation occurs where it is necessary for it to heal itself) and I wish you well. I’ve noted it on FB before that I believe that the vast majority of people have goodness in their hearts. We hear about those who do not because they are what is called “news”. How many reporters contacted you about your accident and asked how many local citizens came to your aid? You wasn’t nooze. Now, if you had been severely injured and robbed, maybe. Fortunately, your injuries, while painful, don’t sound as if they qualify for severe. And no one robbed you. Looking forward to your next B100 broadcast!

    • drb00gie says:

      We just need to remember that there are MORE GOOD than bad people. These experiences serve that goal well. Thank you, Don.

  2. Anita Lynch says:

    Oh Bobby! Glad you’re okay. There are many good folks in the world which keeps my hope in humanity alive.

    I received help from a stranger when I had a recent event of fainting. I then in turn weeks later I helped a man who passed out at Home Depot til paramedics arrived

    Pay it forward to someone else in need…I do.

  3. Sharon Simpson says:

    I am sorry for your fall. But glad the kind strangers helped you. I agree. Be Kind and look for the helpers. They are there.

  4. Debbie Stead says:

    Glad you are good to go. Those splinters and, worse, chunks really hurt. I always try to pay it forward. And Don Williams is very funny.

  5. Sally Lacy says:

    Beautiful! Kindness is all around! We just need to seek it out instead of the negative. I honestly believe there are way more positives, love, and kindness and giving than not. We just have to stop and thank God for each! Slowly but surely the positive will win our!! God Bless!

    • drb00gie says:

      Sally, you nailed it, “there are way more positives, love, and kindness and giving than not.” Thanks for your kindness.

  6. Sonya says:

    Our boy is recovering nicely!! Sure miss you Bobby!! Dan took a spill in San Diego a couple of years ago thinking a sand hill wasn’t as steep as it was and went between two! He bruised ribs and lots of “sand rash”….-we were on the Harley so it was a sore ride back! Glad you are okay,..love to you and sweet Buster

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